Events for Adopting Families

We adopted Victoria with the help of the Gladney Center for Adoption. We were quite happy with Gladney and we are obviously very happy with Victoria.

Gladney has all these post adoption events. We get emails from them every month. So families can get together and discuss issues with adoption, meet other families, random parties, etc.

Is it odd that we have no interest in any of these?

First of all, we’re not that social. But mainly I think it’s because adopting Victoria was so easy. Well, not the adoption process itself, that was a pain. But once we got Tori, it’s been totally smooth. No issues, no unusual adjustments, we’re just a family.

Perhaps it’s easier because Victoria looks close enough to Danielle and no one thinks she’s adopted. We don’t hide the fact that she’s adopted, but it’s not like you meet someone and say, "This is Danielle and this is Victoria – she’s adopted". It usually doesn’t come up. We aren’t likely to get the "what’s adopted mean?" question any time soon, since she never hears the word.

I suppose we are going to have to work on our explanation of the whole adoption thing. But we aren’t going to any adopting parents event for advice on that front. We’ll figure it out…